TIE IN with earlier blogs Dear all…
(LIFE SKILLS 5)
Developing life skills will lead to ‘ Happiness’ let us then know about such Quotient. Research duly validated by me through experiencing now at 85 here is the brief on the ‘HAPPINESS QUOTIENT’
‘‘Ever cheerful in maintaining positive emotions leading to strong health ;good relationships and success in work being pro democratic and ever ready to help others Positive Emotions is inclusive of holistic profile the ABC attitude;behavior;character representing mind. body; soul ; the fine blend of IQ;EQ;SQ developed through Wisdom oriented Contemplation; Dedication oriented Passion ; Duty oriented Conduct and practiced by way of DETACHMENT in ATTACHMENT’’
The phrase ‘‘Detachment in Attachment ‘ may read alarming but it is not so. Attachment is infatuation more so with the results of the work and not with the work.Detachment refers to ‘ ignoring results and all infatuation with the work’ Expectation from the object of infatuation causes attachment .This results in stress adversely influencing the quality of work profile. Total disregard of such expectant leads to detachment. Now FIRST THING FIRST ………….. GBK!
in the preface to my book GITA in ACTION I have reflected the essence as thus ‘ PERFORM YOUR WORDLY DUTIES ENTUSIASTICALLY ACCORDING TO YOUR RERSPECTIVE POSITIONS IN LIFE FOR THE UNIVERSAL GOOD WITHOUT CONCERNING YOURSELF WITH THE RESULTS WITH A SELF IDENTIFYING VISION .THIS IS DIVINE CALLING.ALL WORK IS HIS WORK ‘
Taking on First thing first: Preparatory HOME WORK through own time work with consultation;counseling and referential reading about the processes for developing LIFE SKILLS : Gyanmay Chintan; Bhaktimay Bhav; Karmmay Vyavhar the GBK !
Gyanmay Chintan : Wisdom oriented Contemplation.
The realization of Godliness in self is an ennobling and enabling concept to reinforce the individual will for doing anything and everything effectively – to be the winner. This instills the attitude ‘I can….’ The second assumption is that we look for similar godliness in other individuals irrespective of any distinction. This means that the individual self is so expanded as to include the selves of others. The unifying godliness in all fosters universal brotherhood and ultimate spiritual fellowship. The wisdom capsule will include the strategy to manage six basic obstacles in the march on road to spirituality. These steep breakers are Lust; Anger; Attachment; Greed, Ego; Jealousy. These worldly mores have both positive and negative overtones. We need to reinforce the positive and ward off the negative. To learn, to commit, to do is the corner stone for the process of wisdom oriented contemplation. Listening; reflection and experiencing are the integral of the process of contemplation. All this will lead to live as a TQM-S. Total Quality Management of Self .The consciousness gradually tries to free itself and tries to know itself by itself; thus changed itself into self consciousness. More deeply the man engages in thought process, more he may be said to be utilizing this method. In thought we rise above the body. This is attainment of true wisdom through recollectedness and discrimination such as constantly reminding oneself ‘I am not the body …. I am the spirit….’ This is Gyan Yog.
Bhaktimay Bhav : Devotional Commitment
Devotional Commitment refers to emotional affiliations with reference to the set objectives / people/ situations. Two integral components are love and service. First we need to love our self; we need to serve ourselves and then through expansion of ourselves to include other selves, we need to love them and serve them. Individual, family, neighbor, society, country, the world and the God are natural claimant of our love and service. Dedication is the behavioral objective of devotional commitment. The true manifestation of devotional commitment is in ‘Service to man is service to God’. Love reinforces trust. It enriches the sense of belongingness. It sustains the morale of the individual as well as of the group – others. Non conditionality is the corner stone of love. It is giving and not taking. Caring and sharing is the behavioral manifestation of love. Lust transcends in love. Caring for all creation is the highest form of devotional commitment. Love leads to sacrifice. Sacrifice result in service. We proceed to selfless centeredness from self centeredness. This aids in purifying the thought process. Service leads to action and love ensures endearing strategies in translating devotional commitment in thoughts-deeds- words. Surrendering one’s ego – the sense of ‘I’ and mineness is the stepping stone for devotional commitment. This is enhanced through dignified living with a focus on giving and giving excellently. This elevates spiritual fellowship. The methodology consists in the attempt to fix our attention on one object of thought, rather than on different series of thoughts. Under devotional method are included all forms of worship. The spiritual self should fix its attention deeply and reverently on the object of frame of reference of whatever the thought of a personal God or of an impersonal omnipresence. Gradually the spiritual self gets time and opportunity to think of itself in itself when we pray reverently; we forget all bodily sensations and drive away all intruding thoughts that try to engage our attention. This is Bhakti-yog.
Karmay Vyavhar : Dutiful Conduct
In consideration of diversified roles and individual commitment, the actual performance as a duty is designed as Dutiful conduct. Togetherness and tolerance as reflected in behavioural manifestation of adjustability is the essence of Dutiful conduct. Two other manifestation of such conduct are doing better than one’s best and work for work sake non indulgently. There is a need to be duty conscious and having done that one need to work persistently, effectively, without any anxiety for te result. The result are not the concern. ‘Keep working. Result will follow’ is the success mantra. Quality shall never suffer. The formula for excellence in performance is quantity, quality, cost effectiveness and time. Optimisation of output is the result oriented performance. “I will work” whether someone sees me or not’ and I will work, whether some asks me or not’, are two guiding principles for dutiful conduct. The work proficiency is called Karm yoga – the union of self – individual with the work – the calls from God, nature, man, situation. The SECRET lies in converting ‘I’ into ‘WE’ All this is a matter of self transformation though righteous thoughts; righteous feelings; righteous conduct. Here is my poem ODE to E3 Education ; Excellence; Effectiveness. Read ;Reflect;Review Dear All !
Ode to E3 Education/Excellence/Effectiveness
All lead to E3
When on March
Wisdom oriented contemplation
Facilitate whole man living and
Comfort the march of a lone traveler
Keep watch on A-B-C
With fine turning for calls from
Self/Family/Society/organization/World /God, the Creator
The upward spiral moves on
The mantra is Excellence
Doing better than the best
Now and always
Lead by example as TOM-S/
Total Quality Management of Self
And then Meet success face to face
With never ending bliss
Effectiveness is evaluated through four factors DPMT. Acronym stands for DISCIPLINE-PROFICIENCY-MORALE-TEAM SPIRIT
(More in the next blog !)